reader, Xearo+, writes (4 May 2014): A So yes I feel my husband should not go because she is purposely trying to alienate me( This came from my husband aunt) which I do not care, but you are bringing my children in it and causing problems between my husband and I. It's not always easy to know what to do when your boyfriend leaves you alone at a party. January 17, 2013, 4:26 pm. This s&#* is real. My life is not perfect. I asked him why he didnt say anything in my defense, or to ask why I wasnt invited and he just brushed it off and excused her by saying oh she doesnt know how to talk! It's sad to say, but often the reason a man doesn't invite a partner to his family events is that he's embarrassed or ashamed of them. wendykh Offbeat Wed Vendor Its not a good or bad thing, it just is. January 15, 2013, 11:14 am, LBH, I completely agree. If there was no reason to be uninvited I would hope that my spouse would immediately have addressed this issue. If you guys are going to build a future together, this is something youre going to have to get past at some point. January 15, 2013, 10:52 am. He has two siblings - a brother and sister. We have some issues there, but you know what, I really believe that its important to maintain important relationships. Find someone that wants you at his birthday party. My family would never expect, or even request those types of things of me. Not because the LWs behavior is remotely okay it certainly isnt. Related 14 Signs your boyfriend is done with your relationship. You need to have an honest conversation with yourself before you talk to him. It could be anywhere from a Facebook comment taken the wrong way to stealing money. ), so he goes to see his sister/family and the wife stays home. i mean, maybe this really is a small, *specifically* family only gathering. There are a LOT of reasons it could be justified. Yes it was rude of them to not invite you. Melissa Even if theres no bad blood between the LW and the SIL, maybe one of the other in-laws is horrible and in order to exclude that person, the SIL has to exclude all spouses. I would leave his ass. Turns out we have more in common than this blog posting. You'll end up regretting it, feeling alone, and probably thinking about how much fun everyone else is having while you're sitting home doing nothing. Go to those together. Just this one event? There is no time or room in your life for people that do not have regard for your feelings. I have to assume everyone knows why she chose not to invite the LW. Theres no reason to invite out-of-state friends are you getting married? How to Deal with a Roommate Who Is Inconsiderate: 10 Tips! We dont get to choose our family, and while Im fortunate enough to say I dont have any problem family members, Ive met my fair share over the years. It stung and the relationship with the person was never the same. You might need someone to lean on, but if all they do is let you down it may be time to stand on your own. Well I dont know about him but things that are special to me I want them to myself. bethany My mom wound up calling her to smooth things over, & she called my mom a bitch. I mean, I could certainly see myself reaching out to just my brother to tell him about a party and ASSUMING OF COURSE his wife would come. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. . Hmmm is it possible that they used to kick it together with mutual friends and she kind of just was hoping to reconnect and party and hey what better way to do that than her upcoming bday? LW, I remember the first time I was blatantly snubbed. January 15, 2013, 6:41 pm. I was nodding my head in agreement and shes right, if this slight ruins the foundation of the LWs marriage, there are much bigger problems. Here is what I have to say. Feeling "meh" about them is not a reason to invite one but not the other. And now his pussy ways [can I say that here?] Whatever they may end up telling you, at least you've gained a new perspective, and you'll most likely feel better just talking about what's bothering you. January 17, 2013, 1:53 pm. But I dont think his sister should be at all upset at him if he doesnt fly 1000 miles for her birthday dinner, and I do think the wife has cause to be upset if he goes without her. Again, I just suggested that this depends on the culture of your family (when I say culture I dont mean ethnicity). If its anything else then I think the SIL is in the wrong and the LW has every right to ask her husband to either smooth things over with the sister or him to not go. Screw it. I mean, why not say my SIL and I had a terrible fight, or my husbands family has never liked me, orwellsomething? I disagree with Wendys comments going straight to blaming you and questioning more things about other issues in your marriage. Yeah it also feels like OP enables her bf to do whatever he wants in the relationship. My boyfriend was invited to the bachelor party which is the same weekend in the same place as theirs and there supposedly gonna meet up with the girls at some point and all go out which is cool I want him to have fun. January 15, 2013, 5:12 pm. They mostly did it when I was alone so I think that he thought that I was being too sensitive. I'd invited him to come home for the holidays with me and he declined, and then he made plans to go on a vacation without me. is their anything more agonizingly embarrassing then being sung Happy Birthday to in a restaurant? But now i'm thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend due to our differences. bethany How I feel about their rejection is something I work on myself. He doesnt invite you to family events. You said that you have past with abusive people in your life. I have been married for 33 yrs and now that my husband has stopped talking to his family (which was 100% his idea after my BIL got in my face at a wedding) we have gotten so much closer. It makes me sad to think that families are so fractured that asking for help is seen as ridiculous. reader, chigirl+, writes (3 May 2014): A If you really need proof of that if you really need for your husband to alienate himself from his own sister to feel as if the integrity of your marriage is intact, then something is amiss, and I would urge you to figure out what that something is and address it head-on. You helped him with his costume, drove him around for 40mins and only asked once why he didn't invite you? Did it upset me? Divorcing him would prevent me from getting hurt over and over again. Maybe the SIL thinks they wouldnt be able to afford the tickets and only invited her brother in an effort to spare them embarrassment. Which might lead to mended fences, who knows? so many fun possible conspiracy theories! i agree. I pushed the issue one time, and never did again because I was placed in an awkward situation of showing up at his moms birthday party--without being told it was her birthday! Or the SIL could be a generally petty jerk who never liked the LW. ebstarr January 15, 2013, 11:20 am. Send them in! oh, what is sampsons thing- inaction an action in itself? Well, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and have known him well for about 7 years. Theres not a lot you can do about it, but I love the suggestion of a phone call after; once your husband gets back from the party. If his family accepts her then they will gain a new sister. lets_be_honest But the husband is definitely in the wrong for choosing to go to this party without his wife. So I guess I dont really have any advice. And, if its the familys problem, then he should decline to support their efforts to exclude the person he chose to marry and spend his life with. But then one day, she had a little freakout where she told us all how rude we were , & somehow we never made her feel welcome. He doesnt need to stay home with you for him to know you guys are a unit. I mean, you say he doesnt deny that you were purposely excluded, so what is the reason for this? exactly my theory too- she is just looking for all of us to agree with her that her husband is terrible. female January 15, 2013, 10:39 am. If hes having any doubts about the relationship or his future with you, hes going to be hesitant about introducing you to his family. January 16, 2013, 4:03 pm. If my MIL tells my husband about some party or family gathering I dont have to call her and ask if I can come too. When youre going on about breaking down the integrity of my marriage and my relationship is the foundation of my life, you need an alas. January 15, 2013, 1:52 pm. Sorry, I keep asking you questions. Family tends to be able to see those things. As for how to talk to him, BE HONEST. Your boyfriend of a year doesn't invite you to his birthday party he would be my ex boyfriend Delete Report Edit Reported Reply Boost 7 Agree 1 Disagree If you dont, I can assure you that this wont be the last time you feel as if the foundation of your marriage is being tested. The important thing is how you two communicate about those ways of doing things. But, you don't want to then walk around resenting the party host, or even having negative feelings toward other friends of yours who attended the party despite your lack of invitation. I played a major part in the way the backyard turned out. Heres 22 signs he absolutely, under no circumstances, wants to be your boyfriend. Good one. Now that I know that the LW has not committed an offense that calls for being disinvited, I feel very sorry for her because she has a major problem with her husband. ill be there. Whether it's a casual dinner followed by a movie, or going out to a bar and meeting new people, you won't regret getting out of the house and having a good time. well, but again, what is the husband going to do? Hey LW, just wanted to say that a) Im excited that you updated because we were all curious! lets_be_honest You Go Girl I really dont want to do work today so spill it, LW! In the end, I dont want my husband to choose between his family and me. Hmmm. BUT. I wouldn't choose any of them as a friend. 8. Talk to him let him know how hurt this has made you.Show him all thease comments.My final word is he should have your back no matter whattell him I said so. so, instead of being around a bunch of people I do not know or my children (our children dont know her either, which is my problem with her) do not know. He want a night with 'the guys' from his office. melancholia This is over. Only 2 months and 2 days til St. Patricks Day! Anyways, we battle on together to keep our family united. Helping people, esp. sometimes you just have to live and let live, you know? I will always go to that party. bethany Skyblossom Your husband loves his family and has a right to spend time with them with and without you. I like that about you. Im floored by all the wisdom. I think it all goes back to what Wendy said have discussion(s) with your husband about the fact that this incident has shaken you to the core and caused you to doubt the foundation of your marriage. Both choices are of course nuanced by the possibility of husband calling his sister and saying he would like his wife to be invited and asking why she wasnt. So, in all honesty, I have NO idea why Im not invited. just dont go. I dont agree that his attending the party is a no-brainer. nope. I happened to overhear on a Thanksgiving phone call, then heard he was bending to She Who Decides and he was fine. Well, if youre in this situation, you do have some issues to discuss and figure out. Sure, shes a bitch to you, but dont be a bitch back to your husband because shes hurting you. (I was bored today.) My advice would be for LW to calmly confront SIL and be prepared to perhaps not like what she hearsMaybe jot some notes down, and call her up. They are very similar personalities. usually by that time in your life, you have a mortgage, kids, whatever, stupid stuff that ties you down and doesnt let you just party whenever you want with whoever you want. so, WWS and WEES (what everyone else said). He may be loyal today but eventually he will question your love for him. Theres been many an occasion when Ive been excluded from family events in the past (for birthdays to weddings), and while its always insulting, at this point, 10 years into the relationship and 5 years into our marriage, Im happy to let him go visit on his own. That is pretty far out of the way to go to something your spouse wasnt invited to. I picked out most all of the furniture, helped pick out the flowers etc. Youre pinning this whole situation on OP which is ridiculous, youre clearly projecting whatever resentment you have for your partner you decided to cheat on. So today, there was a party, small coffee shop opened that is owned by his friend. Nothing has changed, he still doesn't invite me. bittergaymark Ok, buddy, now spill it. January 15, 2013, 11:38 am. January 15, 2013, 10:29 am. That way, they'll hopefully have some idea about why you've been left out. He has, on several occasions, mostly when youve been a bit drunk and teary, said that you two cant make it official because things are complicated and used the classic Im not ready for another relationship line. So, in my mind, if you are being excluded for no good reason then he should stick up for you and not go. Invent a healthier future by sharing your truth. But I wonder what would happen if LW just showed up for the dinner in Chicago if she really didnt do anything to warrant the exclusion? I can only guess that I must have done something to offend her but Ive racked my brain and truly have no idea what it was. And I was right! Its more so what theyre hiding and why theyre hiding it from you or hiding you from it. Why does her husband have to ask his sister why she wasnt invited, why cant the LW just grow some ladyballs and ask herself if it is such a big deal. so shouldnt she, then, be the adult in this situation? Youre showing them that youre comfortable enough with your husband and your marriage to know when someone isnt worth starting a fight between the two of you. Well, they finally have showed their true colors to him. Although, like you said unless it was made blatantly clear that the LW was not invited I would probably have assumed that being his wife I was expected to show up (I guess Im not used to formal invites to birthday partiesusually my friends do evites or emails and one of just says plus 1). I did think your first letter sounded suspiciously dramatic, but maybe that was lack of detail; from everything youve said here you seem to be handling the situation with grace and cordiality. Nonsense. It would definitely help to know if theres a history of bad blood between the LW and the SIL, or if the SIL has done this in the past. But people have their own ways of doing things, and that's perfectly fine. January 15, 2013, 11:26 am. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. I thought we had an okay relationship but I wasnt invited to the bachelorette party. Guess what that would do? By Maggie Parker. January 15, 2013, 10:28 am. To insinuate she has a responsibility to force her way in sohe doesnt start thinking she doesnt care about him (?) There could be a host of reasons for the invite, perhaps his friends think he's a @sshole for dumping you and by you turning up it'll look like like 'hey, she's cool with it'. Im so awesome! and at 31 Im like, What? While I cant promise its a simple reason why your boyfriend never invites you to family events, hopefully, you now feel much more confident about talking to him about it. Its not life and death; its not a matter of never seeing someone again. Its just your birthday? Did the SIL mention the party on the phone to her brother and say soemthing like Oh, Im having a party, you should come! and the LW took that as she wasnt invited or where there formal invitations mailed out and the one that shows up to their house only had the husbands name on it? Or wait, dont wait. Shes have surely mentioned that Instead, the LWs silence is quite damning and most revealing of her guilt. GO PRE-SAVE MY NEW SONG: ON MY MINDhttps://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/levcameron/on-my-mindHey everyone it's Lev Cameron, @PiperRockelle boyfriend. But maybe in their eyes it just doesnt matter, and what you can do to keep your relationship with your husband strong is smooth waves of others making. Fab, I cant believe Im hearing this. This morning I realised that he never asked me if I was coming, so I mentioned to him that it hurt my feelings that he didn't even ask me if I wanted to come. Last year he decorated his backyard. I dont know how to handle a situation that hasnt happened yet. You know those people you ask them what they would like to do for their birthday and they are silent then they pout and mope when a big party wasnt thrown. Yeah, honestly it's fine to go to a party without your SO. This really has helped me think about the issue from different viewpoints. Guess it depends on what was done to cause this. Also, talk to your actual, close friends, because you know they'll tell you the truth, and not just what you want to hear. January 15, 2013, 10:00 am. Better to nip this in the bud. January 15, 2013, 9:58 am. You've accepted that you weren't invited, for whatever reason, which is good. that is a pretty legit thing, and if i remember right we have had letters about that before. Don't have an account? Login first Do not make him choose between his wife and his sister, it turns you from victim to villain. Oh so hard to give advice without more information. So I know they existyou just seem to be omitting the reasons behind her behaviour and that seems to indicate they arent favourable to you. On the night of the occasion to which you weren't invited, don't stay home feeling sorry for yourself. reader, llifton+, writes (3 May 2014): A When Weddings Ruin Friendships. FireStar The wife is having to stay home while her husband basically goes on a vacation without her, which seems very wrong in this circumstance. If they choose to not accept her, then they lose a brother. At all. If you and your husband are united in your battles, that makes the challenges and burdens much easier to navigate that if you arent. Family gets a pass on some stuff, but friends need to know better are arent truly friends. January 15, 2013, 11:46 am. This can be even more frustrating. Its just a generally accepted part of being married. I think its rude and awkward, but I really wish the LW had told us the full story. Making this so about your marriage is weird. SHE is his family now! I wish her luck because her husbands refusal to stand up for her and give her guidance on how to get along with his family is going to create major problems in her marriage. I think he should have invited you, or asked the host if it was okay to invite you and then invited you. LW, I think you should either flat out ask your husband what the f is going on or call your SIL and ask her what the f is going on. Grrr. I would never, and I do mean never, accept a family invitation sent only to me and not my husband, simply because we are a unit and the strength of our relationship is the foundation of my life; at the end of the day, I come home to my husband, not my extended family. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. 1. This doesnt necessarily mean hes ashamed of you for being you. But, baring some major reason, if you invite someone, you need to invite their spouse. Shes been coolish (cant say cold) to me for several years but we live far apart and dont see each other much so I always just told myself that I was being silly or paranoid and imagining some aloofness from her that didnt really exist. January 15, 2013, 10:39 am. He didnt write those invitations, so there is really no reason to make it about him. But now, with this invitation, my feelings have been confirmed. His response? It makes me wonder if the LWs attitude has been me/us vs. your family from the beginning. I dont think this has to be the giant issue of loyalty that some have made it out to be. Does anyone remember the Dear Prudence where a woman was getting sick after eating at her MILs house every time and in a follow up switched the gravy tureens with her husband and then her HUSBAND got sick and blamed her for trying to poison him? You should definitely try to be a part of his life. Nothing. Want Dr. Gilda to answer your relationship questions? He treats your birthday with as much excitement as a root canal. It made me feel special. Alopecia? The invite came to my husband via text and it was then followed up with a phone call telling him the specifics (date, other people attending, etc). I wouldnt attend a party my own sister invited me to but didnt invite my fiance. How do you invite someone to a family function without inviting their spouse?! Hes gone down on you once; youve gone down on him no less than eight times. Also a man who doesnt have an issue with his friends taking a stand against his girlfriend is a waste of OPs time too. Im torn because this is a pretty big event I mean, the husband is planning to travel halfway across the country, so it doesnt seem like this is some casual, last-minute, thrown-together party. If the LW did something like steal money/goods from the SIL, was physically violent towards her, or hooked up with the sisters spouse then I get it. January 15, 2013, 9:53 am. January 15, 2013, 11:32 am. Which is something I would expect. And, if your scenario is the case, he should demand that his wife get some serious counseling and mend the rifts she has torn in their family. And then pouts when some cant make it), lets_be_honest DebMoore This is really really important, OP!! By the end of the couple's destination . Thats right, LW, send along a NICE gift and let the SIL feel totally embarrassed and awkward! Once you think you've figured out the reason, or lack thereof, there's nothing to do but accept it and get over it. Now I usually dont have a problem with this, Im very aware we shouldnt spend our every moment together, and some things are left to be individual, like hanging out with friends off course, we dont need to share everything. Tell us about your Rush Hour Crush by submitting them here, and you could see your message published on the site. 19. This is completely cultural. 4. I believe he needs to break that cycle. A pretty stand-up guy. If its the latter then you are just being petty and adding fuel to the fire. NO marriage is a bed of roses but I am pretty sure no one will be writing that in the about me section of their website. (Gee, I wonder why) And that speaks volumes in my book Look, its bad enough. Totally a valid reason to host a party! Steeze And from the pointed, clipped vagueness of the letter here, it is quite obvious (to me) that the LW knows damn well WHY she was excluded but has deliberately chosen NOT to tell us. And dont forget that everything they know about you probably comes from him, too. I dont know. If they didn't have mutual friends there and hadn't been dating for 1.5 years it would be less weird than it is. Not even to reply to a tweet. ele4phant Something ain't right there. This is just how life is, and there's no avoiding it. January 15, 2013, 11:09 am. I'm rather upset about this as on previous nights out etc he has been asked where I am but still doesn't think to invite me. So if I disagree with my spouse my options are to support him or divorce him? Our family felt sort of uncomfortable around her, but she was still invited to events & everyone was polite. 13. you can repair bridges you have burnt with your new family. However, that's a lot of work for me to put in for a party I'm not going to. GatorGirl Anyway, I couldnt imagine not inviting my sisters husband to some event. Further, your capitulation to the status quo may be a trait you use often in lifewhich will keep you stuck. So I tell my husband up front "I'm going to a party you'd hate, stay home and watch TV all night, here are a ton of snacks, have fun!" I think the situation is crappy but we really dont know enough from her letter to tell whether its her being crappy or the SIL (or his entire family). Most people in families care about each other and want to help each other. January 15, 2013, 10:54 am. TaraMonster http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2012/03/poisoned_meals_my_mother_in_law_may_be_trying_to_make_me_sick_.html. And, it sucks for the husband, but thats the way I see it. Lianne I agree. Really, if this is all on the LW, and I get were all assuming it is, but it may not be, her husband should demand that she do whatever it takes to mend fences anyway. Itd be nice if he helped (MAYBE HE HAS, WE DONT KNOW), but is it really his job to work out issues between two grown adults?! I totally agree. January 15, 2013, 10:22 am. Im impatient, sure, but I wanted an update now! OH. female Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended! He didnt even introduce you. But because the husband chose the LW, and chose to stay married to her. he wouldnt stand up for me there.. January 15, 2013, 9:57 pm. Im going to celebrate the shit out of 40. lets_be_honest I think your husband needs to ask his sister SPECIFICALLY in no uncertain terms, if youre invited. i just dont want to ever draw lines in the sand like that, GatorGirl At the end of the day it sounds like there are divided loyaltiesand as a wife, I believe it is important to support your husband, even when you dont agree with him. I will not be wishing Amybelle a happy birthday this year. However, I feel like there is a pretty big reason your SIL is excluding you specifically. I know! It wasnt an invitation in the mail. At face value what we know just from the content in the letter this is a huge slight. Readers from more normal families may have trouble fathoming the depth of the dysfunction in my family, and may assume that I must be at fault because only very serious issues would cause them to act in such a mean fashion. female He says things like:Shall I come over after dinner? and How about we have a sleepover after Ive been out with the boys?. (10 Tips for Handling This! The guy i'm dating doesn't invite me to his birthday party. reader, WhenCowsAttack+, writes (3 May 2014): A January 15, 2013, 9:31 am. I didnt know what I had done to these people! Thanks mom and dad. Mind you this is a 34 year old woman! I would actually wait a little longer than the morning. I would maybe get it if it was a guys weekend or somethingbut a family birthday party? The family hopes to drive a wedge, break up the marriage, and redirect their family member in a direction they deem more appropriate. Yeah, I would be offended if my fiances family considered me an outsider after were married. You sound really co-dependant. The couple in question fly into town for an engagement party - which they invite us to - we go and celebrate with them, I feel uncomfortable but am still kind and sweet. Let him go spend time with them and be thankful that you dont have to partake in a boring small birthday dinner with some people that it sounds like you dont really enjoy! Questions - he asked me to take him to find an outfit. Then she should also talk to her husband about how upset she is that he is not standing up for her. Awesome! You honestly can not see how this woman is being terribly disrespected by her husband? Im sure you can be on your best behavior, at least for the first few times you meet his family. 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